Why Can You Not See?

This past deer season, my grandson and I were given lessons in the art of locating rubs on trees in the woods. After many treks through the woods, via walking or riding the 4-wheelers, we have both become “experts” at finding rubs. One day we were riding around the farm on the 4-wheeler, when my husband pointed out a new rub. Deer rub 2My grandson and I immediately began searching to find it. I found it! However, I asked my grandson, “Do you see it?” His prompt response was, “No! I can’t see it!” In an effort to help him find the rub, I pointed my finger toward the tree, all while giving him verbal ques (take two steps to your left… take three steps forward…. now, look up) all to no avail. He still could not see it! Why could he not see it? I moved the 4-wheeler back, then forward, trying to give him a different view. boy eyesUnbelievably, he still had not spotted the rub. From my perspective, it was in plain sight. After what felt like an eternity, he walked straight to the tree with the rub. We both had a good laugh as he got back on his 4-wheeler, joking as to why he could not find it in the first place.

In that moment, I realized we as people, are much the same. We all have different backgrounds. We all have different histories. We all have different experiences. No matter where we came from or what has happened in this life, we all see things differently. Similar to the rub on the tree, you might not be able to see it, but it may stick out like a sore thumb to others. When things happen in our lives and we take the path of destruction, we become blind, refusing to acknowledge our dire circumstances as well as our approaching disintegration. Denial helps us continue living within our selfish lifestyle. Our idols become our entire existence. Eventually, we start to think, “This is the way it is supposed to be…” Drug abuse, lying, cheating, pornography, gambling, eating disorders, self-mutilation and a multitude of many other things have become our living, breathing idols.

Are you ready to find a way out? Do you want to destroy the wall denial has erected in your life?  deny quotePraise the Lord, we are promised a way out! The team at Recovery Through Rediscovery is here to walk you through every step of your journey. We have developed a daily program for your recovery and we are committed to your recovery for as long as it takes. Please give us a call at 931-364-2570. We look forward to holding your hand on the journey to a new life!

Blessings

 

1 Corinthians 10: 13-14 English Standard Version (ESV)

“13No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man.
God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your
ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of
escape, that you may be able to endure it. 14Therefore, my
beloved, flee from idolatry.”

Imagine, Believe, Achieve…

I just posted the following quote on the Recovery Through Rediscovery Facebook page and it is so profound, I am going to write about it this week.
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We all suffer from addiction of some sort.  Addiction is a word that has become used loosely in our culture.  However, to those who are truly trapped in an addictive lifestyle of substance abuse or behaviors, it is not a loose word.  It IS reality.  A reality where we can only IMAGINE how we got to this place.  IMAGINE how quickly things spiraled out of controbelieveblog3l.  IMAGINE a life without our fix or how life would be without it.  No one can ever IMAGINE this life of torture, guilt, shame and defeat.  Who would want to be in that life right?  There are people out there, right now, trying to climb out of the life of denial, but are fearful of what is on the other side.  There are people who have no hope.  There are those who do not know how to move forward.  There are some who could never imagine being where they are but, they are.  To you, I say…..

BELIEVE that it will be okay.  BELIEVE that your addiction or compulsive behavior that is holding you captive can be overcome.  BELIEVE there are people waiting to help.  BELIEVE there is believeblog6something greater on the other side.  BELIEVE that it will be hard but, the reward of freedom is greater.  BELIEVE you don’t have to have all the answers but, the answers will come.

As the quote says, IMAGINE and BELIEVE with all your heart.  If we give all our heart in something, we begin to find the HOPE of just maybe.  The belief and hope will get us into action.  Action to ACHIEVE.  ACHIEVE a better way of life.  ACHIEVE the impossible.  ACHIEVE to live our daily lives in freedom instead of weighted down with chains.  ACHIEVE healing in relationships that we thought could never be healed.   ACHIEVE having a job and being able to keep it.  ACHIEVE sobriety and staying sober.

believeblog5What are you waiting for?  Even if we are in denial about how bad it really is, we do not have to look far to know we want a way out.  Deep down in all of our hearts we want a better way.  Find your way out.  Our hands are open to grab on to yours to help you on your journey.  Please call.

With ALL YOUR HEART, BELIEVE, IMAGINE, and ACHIEVE the impossible!!!

Blessings!

One of those days…

dayblog9Have you ever had “just one of those days….”?  I had one of those days last Friday.  One thing piled right on top of the other.  As the day wore one, I started having the heavy feeling of, “Is this day ever going to end?”  As a matter of fact, my day ended with a flat tire on my way home from a meeting, which I attend every Friday evening.  Did I mention it was late, I was in the country and not another car was in sight?  Yes, I thought, “Perfect ending to a perfect day!”  However thankfully, I was able to make it to the gas station.  Sitting in my truck, I asked God, “What am I going to do now?”  I cannot change a flat tiredayblog10 and I didn’t even know where the spare tire was!  As I sat there though, I watched a few men go in the store.  With some hesitation, I went and asked for help.  As a side note, asking for help is difficult for me.  I am one of those people who thinks she can do it all on her own.  Nevertheless, I summoned the courage and I asked anyone and everyone, in general, if they would be willing to help me change a flat tire.  That’s when I was humbled, as not one, but five men came to help me, along with one of their wives and children.  I was dayblog4overwhelmed with gratitude for their generosity in helping me.  I said as much to the woman that I was standing with.  She smiled and said, “This is small town, we help each other.”  I am pretty sure their generous spirits hit me so profoundly because of the day I’d had.  It was at this time I was reminded… I am never alone.  He willdayblog2 always be there in my time of need.  I saw God at work Friday night in each one of the people I was surrounded by.  How ironic is it then, that at the meeting I attended earlier that night, the message was on gratitude.  After the flat tire I could not help being in awe at seeing how “one of those days…” came to an end with overwhelming gratitude!
Ecclesiastes 3:9-10   Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor.  For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion.  But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.
dayblog1If you are reading this blog, I want to remind you to surround yourself with those that will help you.  Asking for help is difficult for some, especially when we are certain no one will understand the current circumstances in our lives.  Shame and guilt can paralyze us into NOT becoming what we are intended to be.  If you are one of those that need help, please reach out.  We at Recovery Through Rediscovery are here with our arms outstretched to you.  Addiction is just a symptom of something going on in yourdayblog7 life.  I know you are tired…  I have had those days too, as have many others.  You know the only difference between you and them?  They held out their hand and asked for help.  No matter how you view yourself now, you are loved and you do have a purpose.  Please call us at 931-364-2570 and let us help you on your journey to a grateful, humbled and purposeful life!
Blessings!

The Fall

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I love my grandchildren.  I am so blessed to have them in my life.  They keep me young and make me feel old all at the same time.  I was in the front yard this past weekend playing football with my grandson.  We started off by throwing the football back and forth.  It did not take long for him to incorporate more than throwing the football back and forth.  He began to setup plays with fake interceptions, running plays and finally tackling.  I felt young when we first started and I was excited to extend the play.  When it was my fallblog1turn to catch the set up interception and run to score, I embarrassingly stumbled, tripped over my own two feet and fell to the ground despite attempting to stay on my feet.  As I was falling to the ground I was thinking of my age and how much it was going to hurt.  Embarrassingly, I got to my feet and told my grandson I was okay, but I would not be running the plays any longer.  He understood and we continued to throw the football back and forth.  He found joy and happiness in just throwing the football back and forth.
fallblog5Children have it all together.  The simple thoughts.  The simple joy and happiness.  We are to model ourselves after children.  When we begin to grow and get older, we become tainted to joy and happiness through life’s hardships.  We stumble, fumble, lose our footing and fall to the ground.  We have two choices.  We can get back up or we can stay down on the ground.  The fall might be gradual.  It might start out as simply as throwing the ball back and forth.  After time, we find ourselves adding more and more pleasures to cover the pain we have experienced, which in turn throws us into full chaos.  As youfallblog4 were falling, you may have been thinking as I did, “This is going to hurt!”  You might have had the thought of, “What am I doing?”  Another burden, as you fall, could be knowing what you are doing is going to hurt others around you.  Some get up faster than others.  There are some that need hope, encouragement or someone to listen to them, wondering even if it’s possible to get up off the ground.  Do you long for the days of simple thoughts, joy and happiness?
fallblog7No matter where you started and where you are now, we are here to help you in your journey.  You have to be the one to move off the ground, but our hands are ready to grip yours to help pull you up.  Please call Recovery Through Rediscovery today (931) 364-2570.  We are here for you.
Blessings!

Gratitude…

thankful2Last week, I got a text from a friend who told me it was gratitude day.  She asked me to reply to her with 3 things of which I am grateful.  I sent my reply.  In my message, I included my thoughts about what a great question this was as well as my thanks that she asked.  She then told me she sends this to a group of her friends often and enjoys reading their responses.  No doubt, when my friend reads these messages about her friends’ gratitude, it helps her focus on her blessings as well.

The definition for gratitude is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to bigstock-gratitude-22724237return kindness.  If we as people think about it, finding something we are thankful for daily would be easy.  What exactly we are grateful for would depend where we are in life.  Some of us may be grateful for faith, family, friends and for things we are given.  Some of us may have been on a road to destruction and have lost3turned ourselves around on to a road to recovery, giving us days of gratitude in between struggles.  Mainly sobriety!  Some of us might have unhealthy gratitude such as a new fix, another bottle of alcohol, a new porn site or a new store to shop.  Unhealthy gratitude will lead us to a life of destruction and before long, misery.  The definition for misery is a state or feeling of great distress or discomfort of mind or body.  The question I pose to you today is this: If you find yourself today with an unhealthy gratitude, is this where you really want to be?  My guess is no, its not.  I know somewhere inside, you are longing for ways to shed the misery and discomfort for something more fulfilling.  The road of misery is long, lonely and leads nowhere.  You are finding joy in your substance now, but even getting to a place of fulfillment with its use is getting harder and harder to achieve each day.  Is there an end to it all?  Will there ever be a day you can stop?  You might think this is impossible.  You are tired physically, emotionally and mentally.  If you have not figured this out yet, you will soon find out there are no winners in this.

mustard-seed-3I posted a blog about mustard seeds sometime ago.  My daughter showed me a mustard seed yesterday as ingredients were put together for a recipe.  She held it up to me and said, “the faith of a mustard seed, look how small this seed really is.”  If you get a chance to look at a mustard seed and see overcoming-1how small it actually is, I think it will amaze you what little faith is needed to pull you out of your misery.  A fulfillment that will last longer than a minute, an hour or a day.  I am talking lifelong fulfillment, joy and peace.  We want to walk with you and show you that even faith the size of a mustard seed can do in your life.  There is an end to this road you are on.  Days of a healthy gratitude are not far away.  Please call us and we can start this journey together.

Blessings

pride-10Once I was in a certain class and the word pride was brought up.  I was the first to respond and I immediately stated, “I am not prideful so this does not apply to me.”  The circle continued with the others describing their own struggle with pride.  The more I heard, the more I realized I might have an issue with pride.  Once everyone was done speaking, I raised my hand and asked if I could speak again.  I admitted after hearing others speak of pride that I misunderstood what it actually meant.  There are different types of pride.  I now understand that through my struggles with fear, anxiety and control and by my lack of admitting and/or not seeking help, my pride was in the way.  If you are proud of your children, husband or friend for an accomplishment, this is a healthy pride.  The pride I am talking about prohibits us from seeing the truth about ourselves.  Since pride does creep in, I have now realized that when I start to believe I can do this all on my own, I have to take a step back and honestly examine my intentions.  Pride is there but it is not loud.  Each day, I take time to meditate and pray seeking a humble heart.  We have been given free choice and with that free choice we are given a responsibility to examine ourselves and ourpride-11 motives.  I believe a lot of us go through life thinking we have it all together and need no one.  We also have thoughts that if people really knew who we are and what we are doing, they may not want us around.  With this prideful thinking, we get caught up in whirlwinds that we create and can see no way out.

I read these two statements in an article and thought they were interestingly true, so I will share them with you:

1.  Some never get started on their destiny because they cannot humble themselves to       learn, grow and change.
2.  The widespread, chronic pre-occupation with self in American culture, for example        is rooted in pride   and can give rise to or intensify our emotional problems.

pride-5When we let go of our pride, we are humbled.  When we are humbled, our ability to transform begins.  The root of any addiction is pride.  We need to learn to let go of it and make the change!  Once you let down your pride and admit your addiction, all else will fall in to place.  Is it easy?  Absolutely not!  If we make the change and let it go, you begin to change one day at a time.  We are creatures of habit.  We have to do things slowly and methodically for anything to become a habit.  As we slowly take the path of change, daily it will become easier.  If we get too far ahead of ourselves, we get lost,  lose focus and eventually want to give up. pride-9

I am asking you to take the first step.  Drop your pride and see what great changes will happen in your life!  The team at Recovery Through Rediscovery is here ready to help you.  Please contact us anytime.

Blessings!

What Path Will You Choose?

circleoflife3I have been very mindful this week of relationships.  As I look at all my present relationships and past relationships, I see a pattern in my life.  It does not matter where we come from or who raised us.  We all have patterns in our lives.  I am sure you have heard the expression, “The Circle of Life.”  I don’t know about you, but my life represents more of a zig zag pattern than an actual circle.  Maybe the circle is the beginning and the end of life, but does not count what is in between.  I have had many relationships in my life.  Some have been edifying, encouraging, loving and caring.  I have also hadzigzag1 relationships that were hurtful, damaging and deceitful.  All relationships lead us down particular paths in life.  Don’t get me wrong though, whether a path is chosen or is traveled out of naivety, each person is still responsible for the path they have taken.  In any damaging relationship, negative thoughts of, “I am not good enough…”, “They don’t care anyway…” or “I am only hurting myself…” constantly plague the mind.  In cases of naivety, thoughts including, “I need to do this so I am loved…”, “If I do this I won’t be left…” or “They love me and would never hurt me…” beawareswirl just as often.  We have all been somewhere on this spectrum in our personal relationships.  Some may choose to believe deceitful things they are told about themselves or a situation, which leads to unhealthy paths being followed.  I am asking you to be WATCHFUL!  Be AWARE! Lookwatchful-eyes around you!  Who is in your life today?  Is it someone edifying, walking down a healthy path?  Or, is it someone who continues to walk and/or lead you down a destructive path?
You are better than this.  There is a firm foundation you can stand on so the zig zagging in life will stop.  The destructive road can be your past.  Isn’t it time to walk in relationshipsfirm-foundation-2 that are edifying, caring, loving and healthy?  We all crave those relationships.  We are not meant to live in this world alone.  We have Someone greater Who loves us and Who will lead us where He wants us to be.  This relationship will teach us about the true joy and true peace.  Sound great?  I think so too!  Please call.  We are here, looking forward to guiding you to your firm foundation!
In Him we have the greatest joy…the sweetest peace…the highest hope!
Have a blessed day!

Do you want to be with the cockroaches?

hiding1I was preparing a lesson on darkness and the light and this came to my mind.   I usually wait until the end of a lesson to ask such questions, but I think it is important to get this one out in the open now!  Are you in thehiding3 darkness?   What are you hiding from?  Are you secure and happy with your secrets in the darkness or are the lies catching up with you?
I have a great analogy about darkness and light that I want to share.  You are in the darkness with your secrets and lies.  What happens when you are exposed by the light?  Oh no, I am caught!  What do I do now?  This reminds me of an apartment my husband and I lived in when we first married.  I know bugs are common, but thankfully I was not exposed to them on the inside of my childhood home.  Anyway, my husband and I were so excited to get our first place and start our new life.  One night though, in the middle of the night, I turned on the light to go to the bathroom.  To my horror, there were what seemed like cockroach2hundreds of cockroaches crawling around.  I mean, let’s be real….cockroaches are nasty and they leave nasty droppings everywhere!  They were crawling all over the bathroom mirror, sink, countertop and anywhere else you can imagine.  Needless to say, I screamed!  I quickly turned the light off and went to my new, great protector that was supposed to make everything better…my husband!  Its no surprise, however, that I could not sleep that night.  In fact, there were many nights in the future I could not sleep because all I could see were the bugs crawling around in the dark.  Even worse, I would imagine that when I turned on the light, they would be exposed and I would have to see them in great numbers!  Gross!!!!!
truth4All laughs aside though, when we live in the darkness with our lies and secrets, we chance them being exposed like the cockroaches in my first apartment.  They multiply, grow, get bigger and eventually overtake us.  We are so deep in the dark we cannot even see them for what they are!  When people approach us, hounding us and asking questions because our lies are not matching up, we think we are so lies1clever because we come up with another lie to cover up the last.  We do not want to see the light!  And if we are being honest with ourselves, we definitely do not want people to see all the cockroaches we have hidden in the darkness.
Do not be discouraged though friends!  I know of a Light…a great Light of peace, joy and tranquility.  You can be open and honest.  You do not have to stay in the dark with the bugs…you do not have to come up with new lies to cover the old.  Be completely honest with yourself just this once…are you tired yet?  The Light you can be light1shown does have its challenges, but the indescribable rewards far outnumber the challenges, which are a wonder to behold.  Please contact us at Recovery Through Rediscovery.  We want to help you find the Light, help you exposelight2 everything in your own darkness so you don’t have to hide anymore.  No more secrets!!!  I know it sounds good!  So, why don’t you give it a try?!  I know what you are doing now is not working but, if by some small chance it is…someday the light will come on.  The light always comes on.  I know Who and What the true Protector is and I want to share.  I look so forward to hearing from you soon.  Contact us ANYTIME!!
~Blessings

Let the Sun Shine…

clouds2I look up to the sky all the time.  I have always felt a sense of peace and tranquility looking up to the sky.  The puffy, white clouds are my favorite because I enjoy seeing the masterpieces God makes of them.  Looking up, there are so many beauties and masterpieces being made every day in the sunrises and sunsets.  Even when storms build and approach, the sky has it’s own sense of beauty.   The colors portrayed in all of the various views are breathtaking.  I have seen colors in the sky that I have never seen elsewhere.
clouds7When my children were small, we would lay in the yard and look up to the sky to see what masterpieces the clouds were making.  We saw sharks, boats, fish, cars, anything and clouds6everything.  I have since had the opportunity to pass this on to my grandchildren.  Last week while driving my elderly mother to our home, she even started to talk about the masterpieces she saw.   I would venture to say my mom is the one who taught me to look up and see the beauty.  I am so thankful she did.
As humans we always find something about ourselves that we do not like.  Our height, weight, nose, teeth, hair, we’re too fat, too skinny or whatever we come up with!  All of the insecurities with our outward appearance affect our inner beauty.  I often wonder why we are so insecure because of our beauty.  In reality, we were made exactly how we wereclouds1 meant to be made.  Sadly, culture has taught us we have to be this way or that way, which throws us all into a whirlwind of insecurities.  Life is hard enough already!  For some reason, society adds further hardship by creating these vanity-fueled standards we are supposed to live up to.
One thing that triggers an immense amount of compassion and empathy within myself is the lost sight within others of their own beauty clouds3when lost in the world of addiction.  The storm clouds swirling around them continue and from the rain they feel as though they are drowning.  Just beyond the storm clouds though, there is a sun wanting to rise or set but it cannot be seen from all the darkness.  The beauty that is so bright is trying to come out, but with the developed insecurities from the journey of life it cannot be seen.  There is beauty all around us.  We are God’s masterpiece.   Walking around in shame, guilt, fear, confusion or turmoil will keep us blinded.  We on the outside of the storm can see the sun peaking through wanting to shine fully.  We can see your true beauty.  We are waiting for you to take a small peak and we will be here waiting for you.
Now is the time to become the masterpiece you were created to be.  Find your true beauty and stop hiding behind the dark skies in life.  The sun is there ready to shine and so are cross6you.
Ephesians 2:10 For we are God’s masterpiece.  He created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things He planned for us long ago.
Blessings

Avoiding The Sting…

wasp2This weekend, I watched my husband diligently declare war on a big wasp nest around our home.  I laughed at him as he shot the wasp spray then ran inside the screened porch in fear of being attacked and stung.  He sprayed under the siding where the nest was located, along with any lingering wasps flying in the area.  The wasps that were not hit flew around trying to get back to the nest to see what was going on.  Some of the wasps inside came pouring out to freedom, but others did not make it past coming out before falling to the ground, not able to withstand the contents of the can.
As I was watched the wasps, I realized addiction can affect our lives in much of the same way.  Some of us are around the outside, never having experienced addiction and the chaos it creates.  Some of us have been addicted, hitting the ground never to find our way up wasp4again.  Some have had  addiction in their lives and have found freedom from the destruction.  Unfortunately though, there are still so many out there who are searching for freedom from addiction, but do not know where to turn.  To those who have never known anyone who suffers from addiction or experienced the chaos addiction can cause, I am happy for you.  To those who have lost loved ones to addiction, I am so sorry for your loss.  To those who are still in the throes of addiction-fueled chaos and are searching for freedom, I understand where you are and where you want to go.  Sometimes we can be so caught up in our current positions in life, we become afraid of what might be.  Just as the wasps kept flying around trying to get back to what they are familiar with (their home and security), we can behave similarly with our choice of remaining in chaos.  In the midst of the chaos, we wasp5inadvertently become blind to the freedom that is right outside of the storm surrounding us.  We repeatedly go back to what we feel secure with and where we feel home is.  Leaving behind and learning to live life without the false security we have built our life around is hard to do.  Without the right guidance and help, we can find ourselves going back and forth, in and out of addiction.  This is an all too common and very vicious cycle.
Regardless of where we are in life, we all have felt some sort of chaos.  The team at waspendingpictureRecovery Through Rediscovery is here and ready to serve you, to help guide you through your journey to freedom.  We will help you conquer your fears and realize the joy and peace that is waiting on the other side.  Please, call us and make that first step!
Blessings