Once I was in a certain class and the word pride was brought up. I was the first to respond and I immediately stated, “I am not prideful so this does not apply to me.” The circle continued with the others describing their own struggle with pride. The more I heard, the more I realized I might have an issue with pride. Once everyone was done speaking, I raised my hand and asked if I could speak again. I admitted after hearing others speak of pride that I misunderstood what it actually meant. There are different types of pride. I now understand that through my struggles with fear, anxiety and control and by my lack of admitting and/or not seeking help, my pride was in the way. If you are proud of your children, husband or friend for an accomplishment, this is a healthy pride. The pride I am talking about prohibits us from seeing the truth about ourselves. Since pride does creep in, I have now realized that when I start to believe I can do this all on my own, I have to take a step back and honestly examine my intentions. Pride is there but it is not loud. Each day, I take time to meditate and pray seeking a humble heart. We have been given free choice and with that free choice we are given a responsibility to examine ourselves and our motives. I believe a lot of us go through life thinking we have it all together and need no one. We also have thoughts that if people really knew who we are and what we are doing, they may not want us around. With this prideful thinking, we get caught up in whirlwinds that we create and can see no way out.
I read these two statements in an article and thought they were interestingly true, so I will share them with you:
1. Some never get started on their destiny because they cannot humble themselves to learn, grow and change.
2. The widespread, chronic pre-occupation with self in American culture, for example is rooted in pride and can give rise to or intensify our emotional problems.
When we let go of our pride, we are humbled. When we are humbled, our ability to transform begins. The root of any addiction is pride. We need to learn to let go of it and make the change! Once you let down your pride and admit your addiction, all else will fall in to place. Is it easy? Absolutely not! If we make the change and let it go, you begin to change one day at a time. We are creatures of habit. We have to do things slowly and methodically for anything to become a habit. As we slowly take the path of change, daily it will become easier. If we get too far ahead of ourselves, we get lost, lose focus and eventually want to give up.
I am asking you to take the first step. Drop your pride and see what great changes will happen in your life! The team at Recovery Through Rediscovery is here ready to help you. Please contact us anytime.